“Kind speech” means that when you see sentient beings, you arouse the heart of compassion and offer words of loving care. it is contrary to cruel or violent speech.
In the secular world, there is the customer of asking after someone’s health. In the Buddha way, there is the phrase “Please treasure yourself” and the respectful address to seniors “May I ask how you are?”. It is the kind speech to speak to sentient beings as you would to a baby.
Praise those with virtue; pity those without it. If kind speech is offered, little by little kind speech expands. Thus, even kind speech that is not ordinarily known or seen comes into being. Be willing to practice it for this entire present life; do not give up, world after world, life after life. Kind speech is the basis for reconciling rulers and subduing enemies. Those who hear kind speech from you have a delighted expression and joyful mind. Those who hear of your kind speech will be deeply touched; they will always remember it.
Know that kind speech arises from kind heart, and kind heart from the seed of compassionate heart. Ponder the fact that kind speech is not just praising the merit of others; it has the power to turn the destiny of the nation.
Even when you are clearly correct and others are mistaken, it is harmful to argue and to defeat them. On the other hand, if you admit fault when you are right, you are a coward. It is best to step back, neither trying to correct others nor conceding to mistaken views. If you don’t react competitively, and let go of the conflict, others will also let go of without harboring ill will. Above all, this is something you should keep in mind.
— Dogen Zenji
“Trungpa (in Shambhala: Sacred Path of the Warrior) alludes that we might make special ties to every moment that we experience as the little prince makes to the fox by taming him.”
“I am looking for friends. What does that mean — tame?”
“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”
“To establish ties?”
“Just that,” said the fox. “To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world….”
“People have forgotten this truth,” the fox said. “But you mustn’t forget it. You become responsible forever for what you’ve tamed. You’re responsible for your rose.”
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
Trải lòng đêm khuya 🙂 – I always believe BJJ is the best gift to a child; he or she can keep it till rest of his/her life; to me it is not a sport or a martial art, more like a way of life, second only to zazen. Many of my professional sport friends don’t understand me this point. I stopped talk about and “advertise” about Jiu Jitsu to my friends long time ago, many of my “normal” friends do not know I run a BJJ club. I still talk a person into trying out Jiu Jitsu because I truly believe it is good for him/her; it is a precious thing I can give to that person. At this age in life, I see (in the sense that it is not think or believe) that fate (karma or cơ duyên are better words) will bring us (people) together. May all of you find peace in new year! Happy 2017! Last words, the purpose of training Jiu Jitsu is to keep training Jiu Jitsu (not wining medals or getting the belts). If you understand this, you will find the secret of Jiu Jitsu which is to keep training Jiu Jitsu. – Một đêm mất ngủ 🙂
“It is a big mistake to think that the best way to express yourself is to do whatever you want, acting however you please” – Suzuki
“So there are two aspects to our journey, to our learning process: there is learning by sitting meditation and learning by life experiences. And there is no problem in joining these two together. It is like having a pair of eyes and then putting on glasses. It is the same thing.”
Excerpt From: Chogyam, Trungpa. “The Sanity We Are Born With.”